Thursday, July 31, 2008

surrogate substitute take II

To answer Harley's questions : at the moment the doll has no name. We've just referred to him as 'baby brother' (I suppose the blue clothing and plastic anatomy is a give-away). I'm guessing that when his real baby brother makes an appearance, he'll supercede this doll. Altho' we have no intention of throwing it away, or hiding it. We'll see how Zack copes and what he decides to do with it. At the moment he is quite obsessed with 'ownership', telling me "Mummy, that's not yours" (referring to anything in particular). So he might decide that the doll belongs to him, and I'll be informed that the doll baby brother is "not yours mommy!". I don't mind.
It's really a teaching and transition tool - so we're using it to show him how to hold baby properly, that we can't lie on top of it. Zack shares things with it without being asked - I caught him feeding it grapes a few days ago. It sits on the bed while he's bathing. He sleeps in the same room as Zack, in his own bed - not in Zack's bed. So I think he's getting the message.
The doll's robust enough to go in the bath, and can be fed liquids and solids (with nappy to boot), but I don't intend to go that route. It'll be enough that it goes in the water. We can pretend the rest - an opportunity for imagination time.

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